The other day, I received a text message from a non-Christian friend of mine. I think you’re really sexy & intelligent, and I think sex before marriage is fine. Do you want to catch up for lunch or dinner this week? When I recovered, I messaged back, apologizing if I had done anything to give him the idea I wanted to be anything more than friends.I wasn’t interested in a romantic relationship with this particular non-Christian man. I’d spent years as a youth group leader telling teenage girls not to have sex before marriage and not to date or marry non-Christians.I’m speaking from my experience of managing to stay sexually pure; it’s not meant to be a legalistic list of dos or don’ts.So please read it for what it is—advice from your sister in Christ.Whichever way you choose to dress it up, being single can sometimes feel like one of life’s biggest drags.
From the outside it seems like today’s commitment-phobic millennials have no interest in settling down, but there’s one sub-group of young people who tying the knot younger than most: Christians.Jess is currently single, and unlike many non-religious people of her age, isn’t interested in dating someone she doesn’t think she could eventually marry: “As I could never see myself marrying someone who wasn't a Christian, why go through all the emotion and hurt of dating someone who I knew I'd break up with?” But what do you do if you find yourself falling for a non-Christian?To help find the right questions, we called on three not-yet-married friends who gave some time to thinking about the challenges faced by singles: Lore Ferguson, Paul Maxwell, and the recently engaged Marshall Segal.We ended up with these questions: The Bible commands Christians to marry “in the Lord,” that is, to marry other Christians (1 Corinthians ; 2 Corinthians ).